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Relationship Violence

If your significant other (boyfriend, girlfriend, roommate or spouse – same sex or opposite) constantly challenges and/or criticizes you about:

The company you keep, i.e., your friends

The time you spend with your family

The way you dress or talk

The way you dance

The way you spend your money

The time you spend on the phone or internet

The classes you take

The food you eat

The way you "flirt"

Your intelligence or ability to take care of yourself

If you ever get shoved or hit or threatened or choked, even once...

If you are sexually coerced, or forced into sex against your will...

If you have been called names, or ridiculed in front of others...

If things don't feel right to you, and you are concerned about your safety...

Talk with someone. Your instincts are your greatest safety net!

If you have concerns for your safety:

  • Carry I.D. – driver’s license, birth certificate, passport – for yourself and anyone you care for such as your children or siblings
  • Make a plan on where you can go and who you can call in an emergency
  • Talk to someone you trust – friend, professor, mentor, counselor
  • Contact a domestic violence advocate or police office to learn how to obtain a restraining order

* "relationship violence" refers to violence within a relationship, whether short or long term, whether living together as partners, dating, in a committed relationship, or married. Therefore, this use includes domestic violence and dating violence.